Your lust has a voice.
I’m sure you’ll agree with me when I say that your lust has a voice.
It’s that voice – you know the one. The voice of lust that pulls you in the direction you didn’t want to go before, but now you suddenly REALLY want to. It tells you to go down that path you know you shouldn’t and do those things you already know you will regret later. Yes, lust definitely has a voice.
Lust tells you lies
The voice of lust has so many different angles it uses to lie to you. One of the oldest lies told to men is, “Different is better.” It’s the same as the old adage, “The grass is always greener on the other side.”
When I lived in Texas, I would drive by a cow pasture fairly regularly. I noticed there were two types of cows in the pasture. There were the cows that were content with the food within the confines of the pasture fence and the cows that believed that the grass outside the fence was better. The latter would strain their necks over the fence to reach the outside grass, therefore cutting themselves on the barbed wire.
Lust tells you that different is better.
The voice of lust tells you that you will feel better, stronger, richer, more desirable, more loved, more understood—the lies go on. It tells you that different sexually—a different body, different personality, different connection, different spiritually—is always better than what you have.
Guess what? All of those “different” things are just more lies! Lies which keep you stuck in the same cycle of lust always wanting more but never finding it. Always thinking “next time will be different” and yet you keep winding up in the same place over and over and over again.
Given normal circumstances, men that I have known that have gone all the way and tried “different” reported back that it wasn’t better. Lust hides the flaws of what is different. The voice of lust tells you her hair and makeup are done differently and more beautifully. But it doesn’t tell you it takes her hours to get out of the house. All women and situations have their flaws. Lust lies to you. It tells you if you only have different, whether an image, porn, place or another person, then you have better.
Don’t fall for lust’s trap.
Everything you think is different is all the same. So stop lying to yourself and fight lust! Fight it for yourself. Fight it to make your future better.
Lust is an enemy and is on the other team. Lust is 100 percent willing to destroy you, get you to waste your life, cause you to not reach your destiny, or create the consequences of sin in your life. In other words, lust is committed to your complete destruction, and the potential to lust lives within every man.
Lust is like the linebacker. Once the ball is snapped, he is committed to move you. The snap has already been released, and all of hell is committed to get you to lust and stay lusting so you are destroyed. They can’t get you to lust. That’s your choice. Once you make that choice, if you continue, hell knows the outcome.
Now you do too…
The more you lust, the worse off you are. You become desensitized to women as people. You’ll stay immature in many ways. You won’t pursue your dreams or destiny—or will do so at a much slower pace. Finally, the voice of lust doesn’t tell you about the guilt, shame, and embarrassment you will feel when you ultimately get caught.
…And you will get caught in your lust.
Until you can fully admit your lust, it will be very unlikely that you will live your life lust-free. When Jesus healed people, they often came and proclaimed their condition. You must own your lust before you can start the amazing journey of living lust-free.
Fight lust by taking responsibility for your own. Then choose to stand against it.
When you choose a lust-free lifestyle, the voice of lust becomes weaker in your life and you make it less powerful. You start to see women in a new light, and you break the hold lust has over you. You see the women who are screaming to be lusted after and feel sad for them. You begin creating strong, lust-free muscles, thoughts and beliefs. Here’s the good news: Since you’re in charge, you get to choose how you get stronger and better.
Take action against lust.
Take a stand to being free of lust. Write down a percentage of your willingness to commit to a lust-free life. Willingness matters. If you are not fully committed to living lust-free, you will continue to struggle with little compromises and little secrets.
These little things add up into BIG things. Don’t accept little compromises.
Just look behind you. The lust you have agreed with, considered and participated in is still there. Behind the choice to lust, you had two options: to lust or not. Think like God or think like an earthly man. You have probably had moments of both, and you realize that willingness played an important role in the choice you made.
Block out of the voice of lust.
Find ways block out the voice of lust in your life. Put barriers in place to keep you accountable through friends, small groups and accountability partners. Make an effort to consciously control your lustful thoughts and turn them into positive, clean thoughts. Remind yourself about lust’s lies and that the “different” lust advertises is the same. Not better. Your life will be better for it.
Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including Lust Free Living. You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, drdougweiss.com, by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at email@example.com.