This Page will contain information regarding:
- Definition of Sex Addiction
- Resources of Sex Addiction
- Free Resources for Sex Addiction
- Definition of 6 Types of Sex Addiction
- Assessment Test for Sex Addiction
- Assessment Test for Spouse’s Sex Addiction
- Impact Sex Addiction has on Spouse’s
- 3 and 5 Day Intensives for Sex Addiction
- Sex addiction Behaviors
- Sex addiction affects on spouses
Sex Addiction Behaviors: Your sex addiction might have a variety of behaviors. You can have a :
- Sex Addiction to Masturbation
- Sex Addiction to Pornography of any type
- Sex Addiction to Prostitutes
- Sex Addiction to strip Clubs / Massage Parlors
- Sex addiction involving any gender
- Sex Addiction involving multiple or ongoing affairs
- Sex Addiction involving objects or fetish materials
- Sex Addiction to lust or fantasy
Regardless of the behavior or multiple behaviors in your sex addiction there is hope.
Call today for resources or to set up a 3 or 5 day Intensive 719 278 3708.
Sex Addiction is impacting millions of individuals, marriages and families around the globe. You or someone you love can recover from Sex Addiction – There is hope.
Sex Addiction is the active using of a sexual behavior, whether it is masturbation, porn, fetishes and behavior with self or others in a compulsive life-destroying pattern. The impact is felt in the life of the addict and his or her surrounding family members and friends.
For more information about the harmful effects of Sex Addiction, here are some resources about Sex Addiction.
According to the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy, there are six types of sex addiction:
Biological Sex Addiction-
The biological sex addict is someone whose excessive masturbation and pornography viewing has highjacked the sexual response to attach to images and fantasy. This person may have challenges with relational sex. Although most people with sex addiction have the biological type as one component of their sex addiction, only about 15 percent (in Dr. Weiss’s experience) are solely biologically based sex addicts.
Psychological Sex Addiction-
Research related to sex addiction reveals that most sex addicts have suffered some form of past abuse or neglect. This person finds the combination of the messages in the fantasy world and the sexual chemical cocktail to the brain to be a salve for their hurting soul. Simply put, they medicate the past pain in their souls with sexual acting out which is their form of medicine.
In our clinical experience, 80 percent or more of those who struggle with sex addiction have abandonment, abuse or neglect issues of some type in their past. These painful events will ultimately need to be addressed for the sex addict to fully heal.
Spiritual Sex Addiction-
The person with this type of sex addiction is looking for a spiritual connection in all the wrong places. In recovery we talk about our spiritual hole. This person tries sex for this spiritual void and finds it doesn’t scratch the itch over time.
Trauma Based Sex Addiction-
The person with the trauma based sex addiction has experienced sexual trauma(s) as a child or adolescent. This trauma becomes the major repetitive behavior in their sexual addiction.
For the trauma based sex addict the trauma determines the flavor of the sexual addiction. Here trauma work will need to be address for the addict to heal.
Intimacy Anorexic Sex Addiction-
To be brief, I will list the characteristics of intimacy anorexia. Answer these the way your spouse or partner would answer them about you. If you believe that five or more criteria apply to you, then you are probably an intimacy anorexic.
- Withhold love
- Withhold praise or appreciation
- Control by silence/anger
- Criticism causing isolation
- Withholding sex
- Blaming partner for everything
- Staying very busy to avoid partner time
- Control/Shame with money issues
- Unable to share feelings
- Withholding spiritual connection
Many addicts who have been trying to get sober but keep having what I call “flat tire” recovery (relapsing regularly) often are identified as intimacy anorexics. If you have been sober from sexual addictive acting out behaviors for a year but your wife wants to leave you now because “nothing’s changed” you might also be a sexual/emotional anorexic.
Mood Disorder Sex Addiction-
People with this type of sex addiction have chemical imbalances in adolescence or young adulthood. This young person finds the sexual release as a way to medicate or alter their present chemical imbalance. They then use this sexual response regularly and over time unexpectedly create a sexual addiction. In a journal article Dr. Weiss wrote called The Prevalence of Depression in Male Sex Addicts Residing in the United States, Weiss discovered that 28 % of male sex addicts suffered from depression.
Do you have a sex addiction?
- Do you have secret sexual behaviors with yourself, pornography or others?
- Are you unable to be honest about your sexual behavior?
- Have you tried to stop this behavior and failed?
- Have you continued your sexual behavior even though you have had consequences?
- Have you caused pain in your relationships due to your sexual behavior?
- Do you know you need to stop a sexual behavior in order to be healthy?
- Have you had consequences financially, relationally or socially due to your sexual behavior?
- Do you have a core belief that if you really knew me, you wouldn’t love me?
- Do you have difficulty not lusting or objectifying people?
- Do you use secret emails, web subscriptions or prostitute services?
If you answer yes to several of these questions call our office at 719.278.3708 for an appointment to start recovery from your sex addiction today!
Does Your Spouse have a Sex Addiction?
- Does your spouse have unaccountable time?
- Does your spouse have unaccountable money?
- Does your spouse have unexplainable moods?
- Does your spouse’s mood depend on whether he/she gets sex or not?
- Does your spouse have a lack of sexual activity with you?
- Does your spouse have a history of emotional, physical or sexual abuse or neglect?
- Does your spouse have a supply of pornography (especially the kind you get at adult bookstores)?
- Are there many arguments over sex?
- Is your spouse unable to be emotionally intimate?
- Does sex appear to not satisfy him/her (wants more right away or there never seems to be enough)?
- Is there a lot of anger or erratic behavior when he/she is said “no” to sexually?
- Do you feel alone during your sexual encounters?
- Do you feel used, dirty or abandoned after sexual encounters?
- Is there a sense that he’s/she’s got his fix and now he’s better?
- Have they made promises to quit a behavior and failed?
- Do they have what looks like a double life?
If you answer yes to several of these questions call our office at 719.278.3708 for an appointment to start your journey from the effects of your spouse’s sex addiction.
Sex addiction recovery is possible. Douglas Weiss, Ph.D. has been successfully counseling sex addicts and their spouses for almost thirty years. He was the first in the world to treat Sex Addiction with 3 and 5-day intensives at Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
During these 3 or 5 Day Intensives, sex addicts (and their spouses if applicable) receive 9 to 15 specialized exclusive therapy sessions. This can include marriage and individual sessions, attending informative educational therapy groups, 12 step work groups, as well as watching educational DVDs pertaining directly to their circumstances.
Couples are helped through the critical phases of disclosure, moving into the process of recovery and rebuilding trust, healing and grief for the partner of the sex addict and marital recovery from the sex addiction.
Dr. Weiss has guided many couples as they rebuild their relationship and grasp and implement the necessary skills for an intimate relationship.
Learn more about Sex Addiction Intensives and other helpful resources to help you begin your recovery today.
Top blogs by Dr. Doug Weiss on Sex Addiction
Sexual Addiction impacts the spouse of a sex addict in several areas:
- Sexual Addiction lowers the spouse’s self-esteem
- Sexual Addiction impacts the spouse’s weight
- Sexual Addiction can create depression for the spouse
- Sexual Addiction can impact the spouse’s sexuality
- Sex Addiction can impact the trust level of the spouse
Sex Addiction has many impacts on the spouse. For more statistics, stories and a roadmap for spouse recovery, read “Partners: Healing From His Addiction” or schedule a 3 or 5 Day Intensive to heal from the impacts of sex addiction. This is helpful regardless of whether you are still married to the sex addict. Sources: Partners: Healing From His Addiction
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